Parents and Wrestling. How they react etc.

[Brian Houlihan]

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Hey Yo,
Anyway with the great news that hammerlock have set up two schools in Ireland, In Cork and Dublin, I have decided to train as a wrestler. I have already shared numerous e-mails and talked to the person who is running it on the phone. I think it's a great chance and with spots filling up I really don't have much time to decided what to do. Deciding is easy as I made my mind up the minute I heard about the schools. But it's getting around my Dad. My Dad is great and stuff I mean he has suffered like I have with the death of his wife (My Mom) and his daughter (Sister) but when it comes to wrestling I dunno if he approves or not. I mean it's not like that I won't do it if he is mad but deep down inside I just think that if he says no I won't be able to do it. I am stuck between a rock and a hard place, Any wrestlers gone through same thing?. Anyway reply with what you think I should do. Like not tell my da and go or what.
Thanks

[Michael]

if you want it , go for it.

Youve got to make the decision. The wrestling business is a very hard business to survive in , if your having second thoughts i wouldnt advise making the sacrafises.

Being in the wrestling business will make any family worried , its only natural.

[NJC]

Wow...seems like your Dad has gone through a hard time mate...personally, if your Dad shows any signs of not wanting you to do it, then I wouldn't.

However, "follow your dreams" and all that. Also though, not wanting to dampen the fire, but the likelihood of you reaching your dream of stardom in WWF/Japan/Mexico is very, very slim...so the dream itself may not be all it's cracked up to be, and you could be making your living wrestling in front of 200 people in a leisure centre while they chant for The Rock.

[Hosgood]

I had the same problems with my dad when i started training. Explain to your dad that its a fully licensed school with insurance etc so if you do get hurt you're covered. Also try to explain to your dad the sport side of wrestling and try and educate him, my dad still thought wrestling was the old gimmicky crap from the 80's early 90's so i showed him a tape of jerry lynn v lance storm he was blown away. I'm sure your dad's quite protective of you due to what happened to your mum and sister and is worried about you getting hurt so you'll have to educate him about bumping. Finally if you really love wrestling go for it. Im sure if you love wrestling you wont care about working in front of small crowds just try to watch as much wrestling (preferably non wwf) as you can and just be the best you can be. you'll make new friends and have a lot of fun.

[terminater]

Hey, this is my first post on here so better make it good.

Basicaly I don't know what ur going through and I do at the same time. You see I have never been close to my dad. Things have happened between us, so its always awkward between us.

Hes a big boxing fan and detests wrestling, he used to watch wrestling for bout 2 mins laugh his ass off and then switch it over. so that always pissed me off.

So all u can really do I think is to be honest and open with ur dad. Im sure if u explain it too him like hosgood says it'll work out. But in the end you have to do what feels right to u. My biggest fear is too wake up when im sixty and say to my grankids i could've been a wrestler and then give the same excuses y i never that ive been giving myself for the last 4o years.

good luck anyway
I hope to see u in the ring.

[xbonez]

It's sort of the same at my house, when I started my partents told me they were dead against me doing it, but they supported me *** I wanted to do it. He should support you and respect your wishes if you wanna start.

X-bonez:devil
http://x-bonez.2ya.com

[Kam]

Its nice to see so much great advice/help :xyx

[Nicole]

If i was you i wouldnt go.

I was going to go to training close to me, but my dad said i couldnt go *** he was too frightened of me getting injured. i would respect ya dads opinion and not go, but remember its only my opinion, follow ur heart:)

[Brian Houlihan]

Nicole you maybe a lil confused by da doesn't know yet.

I will say it but it's just weird you know i promise you I will be here posting around 9 o clockish wiv some updates

Also as Kam pointed out it's cool seeing advice etc. i'm real greatful

[Brian Houlihan]

Ok,
I got the guts to ask him and what he do?

Look away. Didn't say ne thing.

He is kinda watching the news so i have to wait and see but doesn't look good

[Evil_dan]

He just laughed.

My mother on the other hand came to one of the shows that I had a bit part in. Kind of worrying because the last show she went to she nearly got thrown out for shouting too loud and throwing a pair of knickers at Mick McManus:)

Hey, just go for it. Your the only person who knows if you want to do it. And after a few weeks, you'll find out :> .

Incidentally, anyone organising training in the Newcastle upon Tyne/Sunderland area, PLEASE tell me. I am desperately looking for another school to train at.

[TsuMirren]

I've been defending wrestling to people for as long as I remember, even as an 11 year old at my mates house, whilst playing whichever computer was out at the time...erm was the Atari ST out yet??? Nah, still Commodore 64 I think.

Anyways, if you're an adult your parents can really only offer advice...you're not going to get kicked out the house for going to wrestling training.

[Evil_dan]

If i got kicked out by my mum. I haven't lived at home for years.

:devil

[lee]

I think if you explain to your Farther that it IS your dream to do this, the i reacon he will understand. De sure to explain thats its VERY safty orientated, even intive him down to your first training sestion when they teach you how to break fall and explain everything to you...
im sure that will reasure him....

[Brian Houlihan]

Hi.
I have decided to wait another year. In that year I can attend a few weekend camps etc. Learn a bit of martial arts hopefully, maybe train in amature wrestling and just basically get in top shape. I shall continue to talk to the guy who is running it so that I know if theres a spot opening up etc, Not only will i nearly be finished school this time next year but i'll be leaving the house so I will have my own decisions to make etc,

I think this will be a long year. But I shall work hard and so when I finally begin training I will be multiple times readier than I would have been now.

[Evil_dan]

just go for it!

If you put it off nowyou'll just keep putting it off. That's who I ended up being 23 and worth bugger all. If this is your dream, then take it! Grab every chance you get with both hands and don't let go. Or in ten years time you'll look back on thisand regret not taking the chance when it came along.

Just one bit of advice. Locker room politics. Avoid them at all costs. Just let your talent do the talking.

[Michael]

can you realy afford to put it off a year ? .
i echo the previous email - go for it !!!

the sooner you get a match under your belt the quicker you will learn and be able to call your self a pro.

good luck